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The pickup artist community seeks to answer the question, what is the difference between a regular guy and a pick up artist? Well, most guys when they first meet a woman, they ask the same mundane questions: “What is your name? What do you do? Where are you from?” Which translates in her mind, to blah, blah, blah. Chances are, especially if she is a very attractive woman, she has been asked those questions by at least ten guys that day alone. These questions just do not excite her anymore, the key is to get her attention and make her interested in you. Easier said than done you may say. Well that is where the pickup artist community comes into play because it is a community of men just like you who want to improve their approach as well as their attractiveness to women because the common denominator when it comes to a regular guy and a pick up artist can be summed up in one word: confidence.

Confidence is this thing that cannot be quantified because it is a purely personal trait that emanates from within. That’s why people generally say confidence is something your either have or you don’t. It is an unspoken energy that you give off before you even utter a word and when it comes to approaching women it is undeniably what separates the regular guys from what is regarded as a pick up artist. A man who is expertly confidence exudes a certain mystery and generally that is what will pique a woman’s interest; conversely confidence is that one obstacle that most men have to get over. You can change your appearance, lose weight, buy a certain type of car, even have a great job but if you do not have that ‘it’ factor then it’s all for naught.

In all fairness, it takes quite a bit of confidence to be able to approach a woman and introduce yourself. The fear of rejection or worse yet being laughed at cause cause a mental block and can produce anxiety when it comes to approaching women. The pickup artist community helps guide you through this mind-field of missteps because it is coming from men who have been where you are, climbed out of the muck, and are successfully approaching and dating women. Building confidence takes practice and more practice it is not something that you can acquire in a short while but if you are dedicated to becoming a more confident man, then not only will you have more success while dating it can help you develop a more in-depth social skill set. Here are a few quick tips that will help you get some confidence; which conversely will help you have more luck with women.

State of Mind
The first step to becoming a confident man who can navigate through the dating world easily with is by taking a long hard look at yourself and working on yourself from the inside out. Whatever you weaknesses are you have to learn to get rid of them altogether or at least minimize them. You can achieve this by positive reinforcement; congratulate yourself aloud each morning by on something that is uniquely awesome about you. It may seem cheesy at first but it is all about pushing those negative thoughts out and replacing them with positive ones and to that end, it is important to also keep a list of your strengths. Write down at least ten different things that you do well and/or that make you a great guy.

Physical Appearance/Style
Now these things are important because we do live in an image obsessed society. How people regard you can affect how you feel which in turn will start to have an affect on your state of mind. In essence, its more like a confidence boost. It cannot placate true confidence at all because again, confidence comes from within. Women cite that physical appearance is important but not as important as other things like your personality (confidence). Now that your confidence is not some fake put on, you truly feel you are a great guy, being well put together will just be a cherry on top.

Social Practice
Resolve in your mind that you will improve your social skills by doing things that may take you out of your comfort zone. This will make it easier when it comes time to approach women you are intersted in. You can start out simply by saying hello to strangers, male or female. Then progress into putting yourself in situations that you feel comfortable enough to engage in small talk. This could be in a line at the grocery store, waiting in an elevator, or even your neighbor while you’re out doing yardwork. Once you are more comfortable with small talk then you will find your confidence begin to sky-rocket. Here is an even more important tip, if you encounter a negative, anti-social person who does not want to engage you, just move on and remember that who they are, is not a reflection on you. That is perhaps going to be the biggest take-away when approaching women because there will be some women who regardless of how you look or how much self-confidence you have, they will not be interested and that is not a reflection on you. Hey, even James Bond got turned down every now and again.

If you are having problems putting some of these tips into practice, there are a plethora of coaches available in the pickup artist community that would be willing to help you.